Deciding on whom to call on your wedding day can be
a daunting task, as it involves remembering all your
family, friends and acquaintances and then cutting down
the numbers to the select few. The wedding guest list
inevitably turns out to be quite large as it involves
attendees from both the bride and bridegroom’s
Catering to wedding guests can get very elaborate and
prove to be expensive. You and your spouse may sit and
write down the names of all the people you would want
to call for your wedding. This gives you a chance to
prepare an exhaustive guest list and ensures that you
don’t leave any one out. Once you have the list
you realize — and this is especially true when
you are considering a family — you may not want
to call an entire family since you may not be particularly
close to all the members. Maintaining a sizeable and
manageable guest list is often the key to a great wedding.
At your wedding, it is not mandatory to invite all your
fourth cousins or permit your single guests to come
by with their dates. You could even specify this on
your wedding invitation. A wedding planner or other
family members can help you narrow down your guest list.
Always make your budget well in advance and determine
the number of guests accordingly.
It is advisable to send out the wedding invitations
well in advance so that the guests can make appropriate
plans for the wedding date. Last minute invitations
are not welcomed by most. The invitations sent should
bear the name of the person and the family members,
giving them a personalized and warm feel.
Details such as preference of cash instead of gifts
should not be put on an invitation. If necessary such
details can be conveyed by word of mouth or uploaded
in the wedding website. Couples can set up a honeymoon
or new home fund instead of a traditional gift registry.
Guests can be asked to contribute to these funds rather
than presenting gifts or cash.
Many couples have mixed views about having kids at
the wedding. While they can add a certain innocent charm
to the event, they can also cause commotion and chaos
by shouting and running around. If you decide on a kid
free wedding, it is not necessary to mention the same
on the invitation. This information should be spread
by word of mouth through family and friends.
For those who do not feature on the guest list, it
is best to send out wedding announcements. These inform
people about the wedding without formally inviting them.
This ensures that the people are not completely left
out, and helps you limit your guest list.
Guidelines for guests
- Large gifts and packages should be avoided during
a wedding. This is because such items are difficult
to transport and there is the risk of them being stolen
or misplaced. Such items should be delivered to the
home of the couple.
- Very often, it’s best to leave things simple
and present the couple with cash.
- Do not take the liberty of taking along your own
guests. Only the names mentioned on the invitation
are the invitees. In case your children are not mentioned,
do not bring them along