Family (and their duties)
While planning for a wedding, it is always advisable
to include family members every step of the way. This
helps ease a lot of matters because older family members
may be accustomed to making arrangements for wedding
and other large events. They may also be in a position
to make suggestions based on their own wedding experience.
Including family members in making decisions helps to
delegate responsibilities without having to spell them
out. Apart from parents, aunts and uncles, involving
cousins and siblings in the process allows you to discuss
matters freely with someone closer to your age which
helps keep your nerves down. Since the actual wedding
ceremony is only of a short duration, it's important
that the ceremony is micro-managed in terms of details
because you may not have enough avenues to make up for
last minute issues, as is possible with longer celebrations.
Delegation of Responsibilities
When people are invited to share your responsibilities,
they feel important and identify with your needs. Since
family members are typically bound by an affinity, it's
important to make each one of them feel special about
their own capabilities. When you have a tentative wedding
program ready, it's time to divide tasks. You may want
to begin by assessing what each member's special qualities
are and how they can be relevant to the myriad requirements
during a wedding. For instance, a family member who
is skilled at calligraphy can be vested with the responsibility
of creating personalized wedding invitations. Similarly,
there could be someone in charge of arranging transportation,
maintaining communications with the florists and arranging
for bridal hairstyle appointments. It is to be expected
that executing a wedding ceremony is never simple; it
includes planning for a litany of key aspects such as
planning for wedding invitations, wedding pictures,
banquet, and entertainment. A step-by-step distribution
of these duties amongst close friends and relatives
helps ease the stress that invariably crops up during
Some common wedding duties that could be distributed
amongst family members are:
- Arrangement of caterers
- Selection of venue.
- Finding a bridal registry.
- Sending out wedding invitations
- Organizing wedding favors
- Shopping for the wedding ring, wedding gown, veil
and wedding band
- Hiring a wedding singer
- Arrange wedding flowers, bouquets and decorations.
- Wedding gift registry.
- Arrange for security to prevent wedding crashers.
- Call and conduct discussions with a wedding planner
- Prepare wedding vows.
- Select a wedding photographer, pictures and album
- Arrange for the wedding toast and wine.
- Plan a wedding reception
- Find a practical wedding supply source
- Purchase wedding jewelry
- Order the wedding cake, look for a cake design and
- Shop for wedding shoes
- Arrange for the actual wedding ceremony
- Plan the wedding invitation wording.
- Organize for wedding bells, shower, tiara and the
- Make applications for marriage license / certificates
- Design a wedding web site
- Get a wedding guest book
- Plan a wedding theme
- Identify an appropriate bridal store
The list above is not an exhaustive list of duties
and in order to have a smooth and memorable wedding,
it is important to ensure that every minute requirement
is planned well in advance and delegated to responsible
family members for execution.